That which two things are different? Dreaming of the past or dreaming of the future? I'd definitely agree they are similar, but I would consider the mindset in which you approach it to be entirely different. Dreaming of the past is to live in something that will never be; while dreaming of the future involves a possibility. A life where I never had kids is a completely different one than a life where I had kids, successfully raised them to adulthood, and they moved out and were independent.
My previous dreams of the past involved a lot of resentment for the present. But dreams and proper planning for the future necessarily involves accepting and making the best of the present.
Oh, no, I meant, i'm sad because she can't imagine a place where her parenthood is joyful and rewarding. You're sad because she spends so much time looking backwards. But, I think those are two sides of the same coin - if you only look backwards you can't work with the now.
I think that looking forward *is* different, although perhaps only if it involves trying to figure out what you do with the current status to move towards your dreams.
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Date: 2014-08-13 04:04 am (UTC)My previous dreams of the past involved a lot of resentment for the present. But dreams and proper planning for the future necessarily involves accepting and making the best of the present.
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Date: 2014-08-13 05:13 am (UTC)I think that looking forward *is* different, although perhaps only if it involves trying to figure out what you do with the current status to move towards your dreams.