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Jul. 27th, 2009 02:21 pm
meganursula: (contemplative)
http://singout.wordpress.com/2009/07/27/folk-legacy-founder-sandy-paton-passes/

Sandy Paton was a family friend. He was my friend. He and I were always going to run away to Mexico together.
I have no words for this one.

I will sing to Madeleine tonight, its the best i can do.

cars

Jun. 29th, 2009 01:52 pm
meganursula: (bike)
Josh and i have been talking about selling our car. And living without. We think we could do it - we'd need to be more careful about trips, and we'd be more limited in our actions. We'd also have a membership to something like zipcar, which, Josh says, is cost effective if we only used it <=2 /week.

At the same time, i think of buying a bigger car. When my family was in town a few weeks ago i found it to be frustrating that we couldn't all fit in one car. If i end up babysitting next winter, i'm going to car-seat space issues, too. It would be nice to have a seven seater.

My car wishlist is difficult, though, and i don't think the car that matches everything exists. A sample:
* extra high mileage, hybrid of some sort.
* > 5 seats, >= three car seat spaces.
* not a suv. not a minivan.
* all-wheel drive.
* FSR clearance
* stylish
* sun roof, heated seats

(Right now, i think the closest, which may not exist at all, would be a station-wagon with the extra seats in the tailgate. But i don't think anyone makes a station-wagon that is both AWD and efficient. Minivans probably make the most sense, but i don't know if any come in AWD and hybrid. And i hate them. SUVs apppeal to me more, except the ridiculous 'truck' standard on their emissions, and vanity. Nothing really seems to solve the problem.)

An advantage of the zip car route, i think, is that we might be able to choose the size/type of car based on application to some extent.

So, getting rid of our car is probably the happiest solution. One thing that means is that i have to be able to bike more effectively, and haul stuff around more effectively. I pulled Madeleine in her trailer on a 16 mile ride to Woodinville yesterday, and the way back had 'groceries' (6 bottles of wine) included. Today i hauled her to day care in her trailer, and will haul her home. Its a really nice feeling to me. These trips are more a proof-of-concept than anything else, but it still feels good to show its possible. One of these days i'll have to take her on a harder ride - like up to LFP and home or something - before i'm convinced that it is really a useful thing to be able to do.


Really, though, for all the length of this entry, both of the above ideas are pipe dreams for a while. We own our car, so we can't save on car payments. And its not worth so much that is seems to make sense to sell it. For a while next year it will be harder to rely on bikes or public transport. Also, its a very practical car, works extremely well, and suits our needs alright for now and the immediate future. So its not worth upgrading at the moment. Until the car dies, or something else happens to force another choice we'll stick with the status quo.

At least it seems like its not so bad to learn to rely on it less in the meantime, though.
meganursula: (scientist)
My friend Julia says this is good news:

http://www.scienceblog.com/cms/women-faring-well-hiring-process-science-faculty-jobs-research-universities-21675.html

I am not so sure. It shows that there is still a real disparity between genders. What it implies is that this is a much more subtle and complex disparity than just blatant institutional sexism. The reason i find that depressing is that it is relatively easy to fight an outright attack on your gender, but very hard to fight the day to day subtleties of how genders are developed in society and how they interact.

(I imagine that the effects of racism are, at this point, quite similar. It is one thing to have laws that prohibit barring minorities from reading programs, for example. It is quite another thing to address the long standing cultural and societal practices that result in young minorities having less access to family-supported early education and literacy resources. In some sense, the gender issue seems easier to attack, because the genders are spread more evenly through society and different programs. Additionally, a lot of the society pressures on gender equality emerge in adulthood, instead of being present from birth. This makes it seem like it is easier for an individual to modify their own experience.)

I think about this sort of thing a lot, actually. I think about it because my experience as an expecting female is far different from my colleagues experience as an expecting male - mostly because the fact of being pregnant is much more demanding than the fact of watching your wife being pregnant. But also because, in my family, their is still a social expectation that the female take on the home-maker role. I don't think that Josh and i are particularly traditional, nor sexist. But because of who we are, we fall a bit into the roles of mom-home-maker, and dad-bread-winner. Add to this societal norms and training, and it is frustratingly hard to find a balance that makes me feel like i can actually pursue a career with any amount of seriousness.

I think about it, as well, because the role models that i am exposed to. I do see female professors and academics who can guide my path. But they are either non-family oriented, or have husbands that are able to do a more complete gender-role-swap than my family seems able to. I suppose the reason that departments with female heads have better success in promoting female employees is that the perception is that those female heads will be more open to creative work structures that allow the employees to deal with their dual roles as scientist and mom. I don't actually know if that is true, and i'm sure it is not always true (women can also fall into the camp of being more demanding and stricter than their male counterparts, probably to dispel the image of 'female').

What i do see, and have seen for a while, is that while the working world is an inflexible as it is towards work hours, length of work week, alternative job arrangements, etc., for both men and women, we are going to have this problem. In the best case i think you will find that, increasingly, men and women do their gender swap so that it is not assumed to be the female who is playing the complicated double role. But even then, i think one person is going to feel at a disadvantage when it comes to professional achievement, in the vast majority of cases. The ability to distribute the extra-career demands is just too difficult in a society where 50 hour work weeks, and dismissiveness towards family obligations are the norm.

happy 5

Dec. 20th, 2008 09:14 pm
meganursula: (snow)
I would say SNOW but it is getting redundant. I'm going to save it for tomorrow.

But it snowed today.

Josh and i went up north to do some Christmas shopping. We ate dinner with the girl and P.F. Changs. We left the restaraunt into a winter wonderland. My car drives well in the snow.

My shirt class has been postponed from tomorrow until next week (boo!), but i think this means that i get to play in the snow tomorrow.

Today's happy - getting to spend quality time with my husband and my oh-so-adorable daughter!

charming

Dec. 13th, 2008 11:26 pm
meganursula: (Default)

charming
Originally uploaded by meganursula
*charming*

This picture is really for my Hartman family. As usual, she is charmingly on the move.

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