I feel sad for the first Mom because as she says, she "spends an inordinate amount of time dreaming of those days" (before kids).
I definitely had years where I liked my life better before I became a parent, but I also realize it's completely a waste of time to dream of those days - not only are them impossible, they are also so long in the past, I really have no idea who I'd be now if I had a childless life. 16 years changes everybody. So instead, my dreams involve future life without the kids, which to some extent involves getting them to 18 and out the door, but also (because I can't do anything half-assed) involves dedicating my time to making sure they are happy, healthy, independent, interesting people who will succeed in life and make the world a better place. And in the meanwhile, trying to push them into becoming people who I can enjoy being around and be proud of.
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Date: 2014-08-12 08:40 pm (UTC)I definitely had years where I liked my life better before I became a parent, but I also realize it's completely a waste of time to dream of those days - not only are them impossible, they are also so long in the past, I really have no idea who I'd be now if I had a childless life. 16 years changes everybody. So instead, my dreams involve future life without the kids, which to some extent involves getting them to 18 and out the door, but also (because I can't do anything half-assed) involves dedicating my time to making sure they are happy, healthy, independent, interesting people who will succeed in life and make the world a better place. And in the meanwhile, trying to push them into becoming people who I can enjoy being around and be proud of.